An article posted on Medium, “11 Things Socially Aware People Don’t Say,” offers good advice during this crisis—and for other times. Michael Thompson suggests avoiding the following: “I told you so,” “I know how you feel,” “Good luck with that,” “It’s not my fault,” “It’s all in your head,” “That was stupid,” “You always/You never,” “Everything happens for a reason,” “As I said before,” and “With all due respect.”

I would add one: “Frankly” or “Honestly.” When people introduce a statement this way, I find myself disbelieving them and questioning what they say typically. Without the preface, I’ll assume you’re speaking frankly and honestly.

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Discussion:

• Many of these phrases have a positive or harmless intent, but how could the impact be harmful?

• What could you say instead of these expressions?

• What would you add to this list?